Author: barbaramcox

I am the author of The Step-Father’s Step-Son. The book is available through Family Matters Publishing at www.stepfathersstepson.com and Amazon.com. The book covers subjects such as: adultery, family, relationships, and parenting. The book is written primarily for the first family and the children of the parents of the first family.

Aquiring the world

Misleading others…abusing others…mistreating others – none of this has anything to do with love. In this world, many believe that there are no rules regarding family except the laws written by men, but for those that do not believe, there will be punishment – not by men, but by God. According to Mark 9:46, Jesus said, “Where their worm that dieth not, and the fire is not quenched.” So, if you think that you can take a child’s father, a child’s mother, a man’s wife, or a woman’s husband (even if they are divorced) for yourself – you are wrong! God loves his children and expects all of us to respect his family! Jesus said in Mark 9:42, “And whosoever shall offend one of these little ones that believe in me, it is better for him that a millstone were hanged about his neck, and he were cast into the sea.”

Adultery both ways

Men and women both commit adultery when they put away their spouses and marry someone else. It does not matter if the first union was sanctioned by a rabbi, priest, pastor, or justice of the peace, when two people lay together a commitment is required. All of our little children need their fathers and their mothers. When divorce does occur, we are never supposed to marry for a second time. The act of marrying for a second time and moving with the second person is adultery.

According to Mark, Jesus said, “Whosoever shall put away his wife, and marry another, committeth adultery against her. And if a woman shall put away her husband, and be married to another, she committeth adultery.” (Mark 10:11-12)

 

Children at risk

Operationrescue.org reports that four in ten of all unplanned pregnancies end with abortion. Approximately twenty-one percent of all pregnancies are terminated.  (2011)

Many of our children that are born – are abandoned by their parents or are abused and neglected in homes where adulterers live. Many will never know the family of people to whom they are related. Few grow up in homes where their mother and father both live.

The commandment to love others not only applies to our neighbor and ourselves, but also to all of our children! For the protection of our children, fathers must not walk away from the bed and walk away from their family! Save the first family!

“That which cometh out of a man, that defileth the man. For from within, out of the heart of men, proceed evil thoughts, adulteries, fornications, murders, Thefts, covetousness, wickedness, deceit, lasciviousness, an evil eye, blasphemy, pride, foolishness: All of these evil things come from within, and defile a man.” (Mark 7:20-23)

 

Do our men have hardened hearts?

In normal families, fathers uplift their sons. But when our fathers get involved with adultery, in many cases they will spend their time and energy uplifting another woman and her children with him. Men that marry a child’s mother will quite often have a difficult time caring for another man’s son – especially when he has children with the child’s mother. In the process of adultery, there will always be regrets. There will be lingering memories of the first family – many opportunities to think about what went wrong. These memories can bring up emotions – anger that is sometimes misdirected. A second wife could be a target of these misdirected feelings; our sons from the first family could also be a ready target because these children may be perceived as an inconvenience to the “step-father”. It is easy to understand how our sons could have hardened hearts when growing up in such confusion. Women and children deserve loving fathers and husbands. Uplift the first family…Save the first family! Do not commit adultery!

Jesus said in Mark 10:2-9, “And the Pharisees came to him, and asked him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife? tempting him. And he answered and said unto them, “What did Moses command you?” And they said, Moses suffered to write a bill of divorcement, and to put her away. And Jesus answered them, “For the hardness of your heart he wrote you this precept. But from the beginning of the creation God made them male and female. For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and cleave to his wife. And they twain shall be one flesh: so then they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let no man separate.”

Do you worship Jesus in vain?

“Well hath Esaias prophesied of you hypocrites, as it is written, This people honoureth me with their lips, but their heart is far from me. Howbeit in vain do they worship me, teaching for doctrines the commandments of men. For laying aside the commandments of God, ye hold the tradition of men, as the washing of pots and cups: and many other such like things ye do.” (Mark 7:6-8)

It is a tradition to have only one wife at a time. Men go from woman to woman until they finally make the commitment to marry. Other men divorce their first wife and marry another. Does anyone ever stop to think about the possibility that any of these women may have become pregnant with a child? How many of our men will walk away from their own children – both born and unborn? These children become the sole responsibility of the mother alone. Worse still, how many of these pregnant women will make the decision to eliminate this little child from their body by abortion?

Woe to our mothers and fathers that permit the killing of their own children! It is time for our men to start accepting responsibility for all of their wives and all of their children and not just the children that they father with the woman with whom they currently reside.A second wife must always come second and not first. Family members are not disposable. Save the first family!