Do our men have hardened hearts?

In normal families, fathers uplift their sons. But when our fathers get involved with adultery, in many cases they will spend their time and energy uplifting another woman and her children with him. Men that marry a child’s mother will quite often have a difficult time caring for another man’s son – especially when he has children with the child’s mother. In the process of adultery, there will always be regrets. There will be lingering memories of the first family – many opportunities to think about what went wrong. These memories can bring up emotions – anger that is sometimes misdirected. A second wife could be a target of these misdirected feelings; our sons from the first family could also be a ready target because these children may be perceived as an inconvenience to the “step-father”. It is easy to understand how our sons could have hardened hearts when growing up in such confusion. Women and children deserve loving fathers and husbands. Uplift the first family…Save the first family! Do not commit adultery!

Jesus said in Mark 10:2-9, “And the Pharisees came to him, and asked him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife? tempting him. And he answered and said unto them, “What did Moses command you?” And they said, Moses suffered to write a bill of divorcement, and to put her away. And Jesus answered them, “For the hardness of your heart he wrote you this precept. But from the beginning of the creation God made them male and female. For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and cleave to his wife. And they twain shall be one flesh: so then they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let no man separate.”

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I am the author of The Step-Father’s Step-Son. The book is available through Family Matters Publishing at and The book covers subjects such as: adultery, family, relationships, and parenting. The book is written primarily for the first family and the children of the parents of the first family.