Author: barbaramcox

I am the author of The Step-Father’s Step-Son. The book is available through Family Matters Publishing at www.stepfathersstepson.com and Amazon.com. The book covers subjects such as: adultery, family, relationships, and parenting. The book is written primarily for the first family and the children of the parents of the first family.

The lost children of the house of Israel

Matthew 10:36-38, :”And a man’s foes shall be they of his own household. He that loveth father or mother more than me is not worthy of me: and he that loveth son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me. And he that taketh not his cross, and followeth after me, is not worthy of me.”

Jesus spoke about “in-laws” – mother-in-law, daughter-in-law, etc. Family based upon a lawyer’s law and not God’s law is not “FAMILY”. Abraham is an example of a man that did not love his father more than God. He took Sarah and left his father’s land and his father’s family that his father had with his second wife. There are many men that will put the children of their second wife first in their life. These men love this son or daughter more than Jesus too. If the second family is more important, then the man’s family is not based upon God’s word – it is based upon “laws”. Just look around you today and see how many of our men are living with their second wife and his family with her. It is only through the first family that the entire family can be blessed. Our first family must be the primary heirs of their father and his property. Like Leah and her sons that she had with Jacob, the second family tends to be very selfish. Jacob never put his second family before his first family. Jesus took a stand for the first wife and the children of the first wife. Jesus was the firstborn son of Mary and God. He is the cornerstone, the child of the first family, that so many do not love. CHOOSE THE RIGHT! Save the first family!

The lost children of the house of Israel

The sons of Jacob’s second family had little respect for their father.

  1. Dinah, their sister, went into town to visit some of her girl friends. While she was there, she met Shechem, the prince of that land. Dinah loved Shechem and they lay together. When Jacob’s sons heard about this, they lied to Shechem and his father in order to get them to become circumcised. When they were sore with pain, Simeon and Levi, Dinah’s brothers, killed all of the men including Shechem. (Genesis 34:1-31). Jacob later identified the ones that killed Shechem in greater detail, Jacob talked about how they killed Shechem, the man that their sister loved. (Genesis 49:5-7)
  2. Reuben, Jacob’s oldest son with Leah, went and lay with Jacob’s concubine, Bilhah. (Genesis 35:22)
  3. Jacob’s sons with his second wife wanted to kill Jacob’s firstborn son with Jacob’s first wife, Joseph. Reuben, Jacob’s oldest son, suggested that they not kill Joseph.So Jacob’s sons from his second family abandoned Joseph in a pit which led to him being taken as a slave to another land. They put goats blood on Joseph’s coat of many colors and told their father that Joseph had been killed by a bear. (Genesis 37:1-36) Their father mourned for a very long time for his beloved son, Joseph.

Jacob’s family

When Jacob felt that his family might be threatened by his brother Esau, who was coming to see him with four hundred men, Jacob lined up his family this way. “First he put the hand maids and their children foremost, and Leah and her children after, and Rachel and Joseph hinder most. And he passed over before them, and bowed himself to the ground seven times, until he came near to his brother. And Esau ran to meet him, and embraced him, and fell on his neck, and kissed him: and they wept.” (Genesis 33:2-4) Jacob put his first family last in order to give them the highest level of protection.

The family

Each man is responsible for his own family. His first family comes first – not last. Each woman is a vine, but his first wife is the primary and most important vine in his family. God is the actual owner of each family, but he has trusted men to provide for and to protect His family. Every child has a father; therefore, God expects him to be present in all of His childrens’ lives. The problem comes when a man moves in with or marries another woman. This is when he has officially offered another woman the opportunity to break apart his family. Cheating and abuse are other causes for the break-up of His family – neither should every happen. Protect the first family from the teachings of the descendants and the followers of the lost children from the house of Israel. Make Jesus your shepherd. Save the first family!

(Matthew 21:33-40; Matthew 10:6; Matthew 15:24)

The Cornerstone

Jesus said in Matthew 21:41-44, “Did ye never read in the scriptures, The stone which the builders rejected, the same is become the head of the corner: this is the Lord’s doing, and it is marvelous in our eyes? Therefore I say unto you, The kingdom of God shall be taken from you, and given to a nation bringing forth the fruits thereof. And whosoever shall fall on this stone shall be broken: but on whosoever it shall fall, it will grind him to powder.”

In the scriptures that come before these, Jesus is using a parable to talk about the family and the man’s (husbandman’s) responsibility to his family. The fruits that the lord of the vineyard desires to receive are our children. God wants the whole family in Heaven with him. God has leased his family out to men for their care and protection. When a man abandons his family for another woman, it is very damaging to our children. (This also includes the mother abandoning her family for another man.) Abuse and abandonment are things that shake up our children’s faith and separate them from God, who is the Lord of the vineyard (the family). Our children are the cornerstones between the man and the woman, but the children of the first family are the primary cornerstones. These children of the first family are the children that are hurt so badly when the family is broken or torn apart by another man or another woman. In many cases these cornerstones are aborted because the father has moved on to another woman. The mother will make the very bad choice to have this child aborted because the father shows no interest in his family or the unborn child. Also, the children of the first family, our cornerstones, are the ones that are the most likely to be abused when an an unrelated adult (step-father, live in boyfriend, step-mother, or live in girlfriend) moves into the family home. If we fall on this child by injuring this child, we will be broken. Worse still, if we should kill this child (the cornerstone) either by abortion or by abuse, we will be ground to powder. Save the first family!