Author: barbaramcox

I am the author of The Step-Father’s Step-Son. The book is available through Family Matters Publishing at www.stepfathersstepson.com and Amazon.com. The book covers subjects such as: adultery, family, relationships, and parenting. The book is written primarily for the first family and the children of the parents of the first family.

Joseph Cried!

Joseph was the firstborn son of a first family like many of our sons. In Joseph’s case, it was the children of the second family, and their mother most likely, that desired to kill him or eliminate him in some way. In many of our sons’ cases; it is their own father, the “step-mother”, and the children of the second family that succeed in eliminating them from their natural family position and from their father’s life and family. Our children from the first family have little to no support in reconciling with the second family because their own fathers are working against them. Our children, and especially our sons, must suffer much for their father’s adultery, their step-mother’s adultery, and sometimes, even their own mother’s adultery with an adulterous “step-father”. They all look around in disbelief that there is any problem at all! Wake up, you that are asleep while trying to appear awake!

Genesis 43:29-30, When Joseph’s half-brothers arrived in Egypt to get grain and feed for their animals during the drought, they came to him without knowing who he was. “And he lifted up his eyes, and saw his brother Benjamin, his mother’ son, and said, is this your younger brother, of whom ye spake unto me? And he said, God be gracious unto thee, my son. And Joseph made haste for his bowels did yearn upon his brother: and he sought where to weep; and he entered into his chamber, and wept there.”

Genesis 45:1-2, “Then Joseph could not refrain himself before all them that stood by him and he cried, Cause every man to go out from him, And there stood no man with him, While Joseph made himself known unto his brethren. And he wept aloud; and the Egyptians and the house of Pharoah heard.”

Genesis 50:1, “And Joseph fell upon his father’s face, and wept upon him, and kissed him.”

Genesis 50:16-21, “And they sent a messenger unto Joseph, saying, Thy father did command before he died, saying, So shall ye unto Joseph, Forgive, I pray thee now, the trespass of thy brethren, and their sin; for they did unto thee evil: and now, we pray thee, forgive the trespass of the servants of the God of thy father. And Joseph wept when they spake unto him. And his brethren also went and fell down before his face; and they said, Behold, we be thy servants. And Joseph said unto them, Fear not: for am I in the place of God? But as for you, ye thought evil against me; but God meant it unto good, to bring to pass, as it is this day, to save much people alive. Now therefore fear ye not: I will nourish you, and your little ones. And he comforted them, and spake kindly unto them.”

Single Parent

What exactly does the term “single parent” mean?
According to Urban Dictionary, “Single parent means the parent is the only parent to the child, responsible for all financial, material, and emotional needs. It means there is an absence of the other parent as opposed to a co-parent, meaning that the parent is not the only parent regardless of whether or not they are a couple.”

Many people seem to think that women give birth to children through a process called parthenogenesis whereby no male was involved in the conception. Many men do not seem to understand that when an egg and their sperm unite that a new life is created. For this reason, many men will lay with a woman and then leave. The good time was had and now they can find another body to lay. It doesn’t work this way unless God does the fertilization as with Mary, Jesus’ mother. It is every man’s responsibility to be present for the care and nurturing of the next generation.

Does anyone remarry after divorce?

According to Nancy Kalish, author of “Lost and Found Lovers: Facts and Fantasies of Rekindled Romances”, approximately six (6) percent of American couples marry, divorce, and remarry each other.

There is a lot of truth regarding the first family. Some tweaking may be required to make the marriage work that requires some time apart and alone. The key is not to let anyone separate the first family during this period of separation. Also, it is important for others to respect this family by not getting involved with the separated partners. And for anyone that does separate the family, reconciliation will become much less likely. Respect and love the first family enough to stay out! Respect God’s family plan!

God’s Plan Ended with Jacob

God planned to bless all of the families of the earth. He began his plan by removing Abram; who would later be called Abraham; from his country, his relatives, his father’s house, and his land. He was going to wipe the slate clean. His plan continued with Isaac and Jacob. All three of these men kept their first family first. But everything changed with Jacob’s children. The second family, Leah and her sons, worked against the first family and especially against the firstborn son of the first family, Joseph. Because of what the sons of Leah did, Joseph was completely removed from his father’s land and family and sold into slavery. This is when God’s plan ended and he would later make the decision to send his own son to try to turn things around. Jesus said, “I am not sent but unto the lost sheep of the house of Israel.” (Matthew 15:24) But men failed to listen. Men still continue divorcing and remarrying, marrying divorced women, and taking multiple women at the same time without loving them and keeping their first family first. It is time that we begin using Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob as our examples of family and put the first family first and not last!

The Twelve Tribes of Israel

To which tribe of Israel do you belong? Are you living examples of the life that Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob lived to keep the way of the Lord? Is your first family first? (Genesis 18:19)

Jesus said, “Ye are they which have continued with me in my temptations. And I appoint unto you a kingdom, as my Father hath appointed unto me; That ye may eat and drink at my table in my kingdom, and sit on thrones judging the twelve tribes of Israel.” (Luke 22:28-30)