Author: barbaramcox

I am the author of The Step-Father’s Step-Son. The book is available through Family Matters Publishing at www.stepfathersstepson.com and Amazon.com. The book covers subjects such as: adultery, family, relationships, and parenting. The book is written primarily for the first family and the children of the parents of the first family.

Our separation from God

God loves all of us, but there are rules that we must follow. Adam and Eve are the first two mentioned in Genesis that disobeyed a commandment of God and became separated from Him. Eve took the fruit and ate and so did “Adam who was with her.” (Genesis 3:6) When God returned to the Garden to talk to them about the rule, neither of them accepted responsibility. Adam blamed Eve and Eve said, “The serpent beguiled (tricked) me and I did eat.” (Genesis 3:13) As a result, both experienced prolonged guilt and regret. The same is true for adulterers – once they cross the line and commit adultery their eyes are opened to good and evil – there is no turning back. And unlike Jacob who was tricked into adultery, most will cast aside their first family and start another family with another man or woman. Jacob accepted responsibility for his whole family. He kept his family intact. Today, most would have either cast Leah aside or abandoned Rachel. Jacob did neither, he kept his promise to Rachel, the one that he loved. Are you willing to accept responsibility for your whole family?

Jacob was beguiled or tricked

Laban, Leah’s father, and Leah, Laban’s oldest daughter, thought that if Jacob laid with Leah first that she would be his first wife. WRONG! They tricked Jacob into laying with Leah, but Jacob remained loyal to the woman that he loved. Jacob loved Rachel! He kept both women, but he lived with Rachel, the one that he loved.

Genesis 29:20-26, “And Jacob served seven years for Rachel and they seemed unto him but a few days, for the love he had for her. And Jacob said unto Laban, Give me my wife, for my days are fulfilled, that I may go in unto her. And Laban gathered together all the men of the place, and made a feast. And it came to pass in the evening, that he took Leah his daughter, and brought her to him; and he went in unto her…And it came to pass that in the morning, behold, it was Leah; and he said to Laban, What is this thou hast done unto me? did I not serve with thee for Rachel? Wherefore then has thou beguiled me?”

How many men believe that if they are tricked into laying with a woman,when they already love someone else, that they must marry the woman that they laid with instead of the woman that they loved? Leah knew about Rachel, so there were no secrets. She willfully tricked Jacob. Jacob did the right thing. Men must be open and honest about their relationships in order to keep their generations perfect. Jacob made it clear from the beginning that he was working for Rachel and only Rachel!

Abraham’s Second Wife

Genesis 16:4, “And he went in unto Hagar, and she conceived: and when she saw that she had conceived, her mistress was despised in her eyes.”

Genesis 21:9, “And Sarah saw the son of Hagar the Egyptian, which she had born unto Abraham mocking.”

Abraham’s second family did not love Abraham’s first family. Most second wives and most second children want to be first. Unfortunately, they  can never be first unless they eliminate the wife and children of the first family. This is the reason that our family laws are written the way that they are…for the benefit of the second family. These lawyers have law enforcement to make the unnatural into the natural. These lawyers will work to give the property of the mother and father to the children of the second families. They will use laws to work against the natural family. Even our “pastors” get involved in the process.

The Step-Parent or the Step-Child… who is your heir?

Jesus said in Matthew 5:32, “But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery, and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery.”

In this scripture, Jesus is trying to safeguard God’s children. God desires that every child have a mother and a father – not a mother, father, step-father, and step-mother. It is through the process of adultery that the family is split asunder by two adults – a step-father and a step-mother. In this process, step-parents replace the children of the first family as heirs. This is exactly the way the Jacob’s second wife, Leah, and her children would have wanted it, but Jacob did not allow it. Even still today, many fall for the laws of the lost children of the house of Israel. They prefer to put their trust in a lawyer and pastor instead of God.
Lawyers do not have the authority from God to break up a family and our pastors do not have the authority to marry someone that is divorced. The first family must remain in the primary position. The second family must always remain secondary. But, all of this changes when a parent moves in with an unrelated stranger. This is when the first family begins to fall through the cracks. God allows the children of the first family to be heirs and we must let them be our primary heirs! Please do not replace or let someone else replace the children of your first family with the children of your second family. Let Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob be your example and not a lawyer or a pastor. Save your first family!

Repent for the kingdom of heaven is at hand

Jesus said in Matthew 9:12-13, “They that be whole need not a physician, but they that are sick. But go ye and learn what that meaneth, I will have mercy, and not sacrifice for I am not come to call the righteous, but sinners to repentance.”

Matthew 10:6-7, “But go rather to the lost sheep of the house of Israel. And as ye go, preach, saying, The kingdom of heaven is at hand.”

The physician is Jesus. This world and its adultery is so confusing that it makes many of our children sick. Jesus is the only way to help these sick children that have lost parents to unrelated strangers. But forgiveness rather than punishment is required in order to encourage and help the sinners to repent.

Anyone that has divorced, remarried, and moved in with someone else is a lost child of the house of Israel. When this happens, the second family becomes their primary family and the first family is cast aside. Then, when the parents of the children of the first family die before the step-parents, the second family becomes the primary and in many cases the sole heir. The children of the first family suffer from the moment that adultery begins, until their parent’s death, and finally until they themselves die. These children are rejected and replaced by the adulterers and their children.