Author: barbaramcox

I am the author of The Step-Father’s Step-Son. The book is available through Family Matters Publishing at www.stepfathersstepson.com and Amazon.com. The book covers subjects such as: adultery, family, relationships, and parenting. The book is written primarily for the first family and the children of the parents of the first family.

Choose Who You Follow Wisely!

In Luke 16:1-13, we have a person that was accused of being unjust by the rich man for which he worked. He knew that if he got fired, that this man was the only employer that paid well. So, in order to keep his job, he reduced the loan amounts of all of the rich man’s debtors, collected the money, and presented it to the rich man. The rich man then commended him for his work. In this way, the worker was permitted to remain a part of a system that would guarantee him a retirement and a place to live.

In this world, in many cases, people work for governments, companies, and people that are unrighteous. And if the workers get along well with these unrighteous leaders, they will be rewarded in the end.

But beware, if the rich man or woman (lawyer, doctor, politician, etc.) that you work for or follow, supports a system of mammon that encourages the abortion of children, the abandonment of children into a social welfare system, or the break up and dissolution of the first family, flee from them!

Jesus said, “No servant can serve two masters: for either he will hate the one, and love the other, or else he will hold to the one, and despise the other. Ye cannot serve God and mammon.” (Luke 16:13) Choose who you follow and who you serve wisely!

Should Parents Disown Their Own Children?

The answer is absolutely “No!”

Jesus spoke of a man that had two sons: of whom the younger asked for his inheritance early, went to a far off land, and squandered it on harlots. When this son repented what he had done, his father hosted a great feast.

The older son was angry when he heard what his father had done for his brother. The father answered his son, “Son, thine art ever with me, and all I have is thine. It was meet that we should make merry, and be glad: for this thy brother was dead, and is alive again; and was lost, and is found.”(Luke 15:31-32)

Fathers, do not abandon your children for another woman or for the sins that they commit. The son left the women and returned to his father with repentance. How many of our fathers need to repent for leaving their wife and children for another woman? Prove to your children that family is forever and not disposable.

Will You Go After Your Lost Children?

The abused, neglected, and abandoned children of the first family have been given very heavy burdens to bear by their father and his second wife and their mother and her second husband.

Jesus said, “What man of you, having an hundred sheep, if he lose one of them, doth not leave the ninety and nine in the wilderness, and go after that which is lost, until he find it? And when he hath found it, he layeth it on his shoulders, rejoicing. And when he cometh home, he calleth together his friends and neighbors, saying unto them, Rejoice with me; for I have found my lost sheep which was lost. I say unto you, that likewise joy shall be in heaven over one sinner that repenteth, more than over the ninety and nine just persons, which need no repentance.”(Luke 15:4-7)

Will You Go After Your Lost Children?

The abandoned, abused, and neglected children of a man’s first family are carrying a heavy burden delivered by their father and his second wife and by their mother and her second husband. These children have been abandoned and broken by grown-ups. Most will never reach their full potential. While the step parents teach their children to read, multiplication tables, etc.; the children of the first family will be neglected. Resources and time will be taken from the children of the first family and given to the children of the second family. This is not fair or moral.

Jesus said, “What man of you, having an hundred sheep, if he lose one of them, doth not leave the ninety and nine in the wilderness, and go after that which is lost, until he find it? And when he hath found it, he layeth it on his shoulders, rejoicing. And when he cometh home, he calleth together his friends and neighbors, saying unto them, Rejoice with me; for I have found my lost sheep which was lost. I say unto you, that likewise joy shall be in heaven over one sinner that repenteth, more than over ninety and nine just persons, which need no repentance.”(Luke 15:4-7)

Are You Ready?

One of the most difficult projects that a man can undertake is to put his broken family back together. An endeavor of this type requires planning, preparation, and coordination. In order to do so, he must put things into their proper perspective. His second wife and her children with him are second, so there has to be a shift back towards his first wife and her children. In order to accomplish this goal, he must prepare himself to go the entire distance. He must give no thought to his life, the life of his second wife, or the children that he has with his second wife or what his father, mother, sisters, or brothers may think. He must permit his first family to return to their primary position within his family.

Jesus said, “If any man come to me, and hate not his father, and mother, and wife, and children, and brethren, and sisters, yea, and his own life also, he cannot be my disciple. And whosoever doth not bear his cross, and come after me, cannot be my disciple.”(Luke 14:26-27)