One of the most difficult projects that a man can undertake is to put his broken family back together. An endeavor of this type requires planning, preparation, and coordination. In order to do so, he must put things into their proper perspective. His second wife and her children with him are second, so there has to be a shift back towards his first wife and her children. In order to accomplish this goal, he must prepare himself to go the entire distance. He must give no thought to his life, the life of his second wife, or the children that he has with his second wife or what his father, mother, sisters, or brothers may think. He must permit his first family to return to their primary position within his family.
Jesus said, “If any man come to me, and hate not his father, and mother, and wife, and children, and brethren, and sisters, yea, and his own life also, he cannot be my disciple. And whosoever doth not bear his cross, and come after me, cannot be my disciple.”(Luke 14:26-27)