Author: barbaramcox

I am the author of The Step-Father’s Step-Son. The book is available through Family Matters Publishing at www.stepfathersstepson.com and Amazon.com. The book covers subjects such as: adultery, family, relationships, and parenting. The book is written primarily for the first family and the children of the parents of the first family.

Who Abuses Their Own Children?

According to the American Society for the Positive Care of Children, “About 30% of abused and neglected children will later abuse their own children, continuing the horrible cycle of abuse…In at least one study, about 80% of 21 year olds that were abused as children met the criteria for at least one psychological disorder.”

Most adults today will hold these abused children solely responsible for the injuries and killings that they do to adults and children. Some will bully other children too because step-parents bullied them. We read about them everyday in our newspapers. But how many stop to think about the unrelated step-parents and partners that lay in their parents’ bed that abused them? It is time that we take a stand for our children. Back in the 1950s and 1960s, we had a generation that started this cycle and its popularity has grown to the point where everybody thinks that it is okay to bring unrelated people into the family home to sleep in our parents’ beds. It is time that we stop this horrible and cruel practice! Our children come first before any step-parent or lover! Kick them out of the bed – they do not belong there!

 

Are Our Children Safe With Step-Parents And Partners?

Absolutely, not! According to two researchers, Martin Daly and Margo Wilson, “A child is one hundred times more likely to be abused or killed by a stepparent than by a genetic parent. Martin Daly and Margo Wilson show that the mistreatment of step children, long a staple of folk tales, has a solid basis in fact.” (The Truth about Cinderella: A Darwinian View of Parental Love, Yale University Press, 1999)

Jesus said “It were better for him that a millstone were hanged about his neck, and he cast into the sea, than that he shall offend one of these little ones.”(Luke 17:2)

Do not bring unrelated strangers or partners into the family home! Protect the children of the first family! Do not commit adultery!

Abortion

Adultery is primarily a sin against the first family. Child abandonment, child abortion, child abuse, and child neglect are all products of this sin. In 2011, there were 730,322 abortions alone without considering the others that were abandoned, abused or neglected for being born first. According to CDC.gov, “Most women undergoing abortions were young, white, and unmarried; most had no previous live birth and were having the procedure for the first time.” The most important way to stop abortion is for our men to start accepting responsibility for their first family. If he lays with a woman, he stays with the woman. We must save our first family from abortion, abandonment, abuse, and neglect. If there is a second family, they must stay second and never be permitted to replace the first family!

Are Parents Responsible for their Own Children?

According to PEW Research studies in 2011, only 85% of biological parents were willing to provide financial support and caregiving for their own children. Only 56% of step-parents felt obligated for step-children.

This study provides valuable information regarding broken homes and families. It seems that 15% of parents believe that their second wife and their children with her are more important than their own children from their first family. The 44% of step-parents that felt no obligation for the children of the first family are telling us that their family (the second family) is more important than their spouse’s first family. And even for those children of the first family for which adults felt some sense of obligation, I am certain that the financial and caregiving support was less than was given to the children of the second family.