Author: barbaramcox

I am the author of The Step-Father’s Step-Son. The book is available through Family Matters Publishing at www.stepfathersstepson.com and Amazon.com. The book covers subjects such as: adultery, family, relationships, and parenting. The book is written primarily for the first family and the children of the parents of the first family.

Man’s World or God’s World

If your family is based upon man’s law, then you will have mothers-in-law, fathers-in-law, sisters-in-law, brothers-in-law, daughters-in-law, and sons-in-law.

If your family is based upom God’s family law, then you will describe family members using words like my son’s wife, my daughter’s husband, my son’s mother or father, etc.

Is your family permanent or tempoporary?

Are you living with your wife or are you living with your wife-in-law?

Abraham’s father called his daughter, Sarah, his daughter-in-law. She and Abraham had different mothers, but Terah was their father. So daughter-in-law actually gave reference to the children of the second family at that time. Today, because of laws enacted by the “lost children of the house of Israel”, we now use the term daughter-in-law to refer to our son’s wife. We also have mother-in-law, father-in-law, and son-in-law. All of these titles refer to members of the first family now. The “in-law” terminology helps to remind everyone that they are temporary members of the family and not permanent members. They can all be eliminated and replaced with the laws of divorce and remarriage. Do you refer to your daughter’s husband as son-in-law or is he your daughter’s husband? Big difference!

God’s law or man’s law?

If you have married, then you know that divorce is always available as an option. Those that have already divorced and remarried are living with their wife-in-law or husband-in-law. Their presence in this home automatically gives the children of the second family priority and power over their first family. The parents have yielded to man’s law and eliminated family members.

If you keep your first family first, then you have chosen to make God’s law your priority. Your faith is in God and not man. Your family is blessed because of your choices and, in turn, God will reward you and bless your family and your future generations.

Every Child Has A Father!

God expects parents to be there for all of their children and not just the children that they have with the person with whom they have committed adultery. Make sure that your first wife is the one that you love and not the one that you lusted after or someone that is going to separate your family. If you are living with either of these two, you are living in the wrong household!

If you lay with her, you stay with her. If you lay with him, you stay with him.

Jesus said, “But they which shall be accounted worthy to obtain that world, and the resurrection from the dead, neither marry, nor are given in marriage: Neither can they die any more for they are equal unto the angels; and are the children of God, being the children of the resurrection. (Luke:20:35-36)

Save the first family!

The Shuffle

So, you married a man from a broken home – one where his parents divorced and then remarried. A man that never had the opportunity to get to know himself by knowing his father or his father’s family. A man that grew up with a step-father that loved his own children with this man’s mother more than her own firstborn son. Now, let me guess…you want to divorce him too!

Just how much loss can we expect our children to bear? First his parent’s abandoned him by remarrying and now you want to abandon him by divorcing him. But, you don’t want to stop by just divorcing him…you want to dump everything on him by remarryiny too. Now we have another generation of adultery in the making.