Author: barbaramcox

I am the author of The Step-Father’s Step-Son. The book is available through Family Matters Publishing at www.stepfathersstepson.com and Amazon.com. The book covers subjects such as: adultery, family, relationships, and parenting. The book is written primarily for the first family and the children of the parents of the first family.

Family Non-formation

testbuttonHeritage.org has made inroads in identifying the problem with our families. It seems that we have parents that care more about themselves than about the other parent and their children. “The growth of the poverty-ridden family today is linked directly with the growth of the family headed by the always-single mother. And this modern form of family disintegration – or more accurately non-formation — has its consequences for criminal behavior. The growth in crime is paralleled by the growth in families abandoned by fathers.”

Fatherless Homes

“Regardless, there is no disagreement that the majority, and perhaps the large majority, of inmates grew up in fatherless homes.” Kay Hynowitz, familyinequality.wordpress.com

All it takes is for one parent to leave the family to complicate our children’s lives. And I agree that we all need time alone, but the biggest problem arises when the parent that left decides to get involved with another person. Adultery has a profound effect upon our children and in turn, their children! Adultery is a generational curse! Do not let anyone separate your family!

Definition of “Parent”

For those of you that believe that a man’s children are only the children that bear his last name…here is the definition of the word “parent”.

“Parent: One that begets or brings forth offspring.” Merriam-Webster Dictionary.

“Parent: A female person whose egg unites with a sperm or a male person whose sperm unites with an egg, resulting in the conception of a child or birth of a child.” The Free Dictionary. Farlex, Inc.

Are our fathers responsible for all of the children that they conceive?

“The father absence crisis in America is real.”

“The father absence crisis in America is real. When we talk about father absence, we mention the U.S. Census Bureau’s statistic that 24 million children – one out of three – live without their father in the home.” fatherhood.org

Let me ask you this…Is the other woman worth the sacrifices that these mothers, children, and their children must endure so that their father can be with her? Is it love when another woman desires to separate a father from his children? The most loveless thing that any parent could do is to abandon their first family for another person and their children!

The Definition of Marriage

According to Merriam-Webster dictionary, “marriage” can mean different things depending upon the time, culture, etc. There are two different opinions or definitions that stand out in my mind. They are:
1. “An intimate or close union”. AND 2. “The state of being united as spouses in a consensual and contractural relationship recognized by law”.
If you go with number 1 as your definition of marriage, you will be there with your first family and for all of your children. Love, repentance, forgiveness, and faith will be the foundation of this home. But if you trust in laws to define your family (Definition 2), you will be living with a woman that is not your first wife and you will be raising her children. In scenario 2, many men will toy with the idea of family and marriage until they finally “tie the knot” with a law. For this reason, many women and children will be abandoned by these irresponsible and ignorant husbands and fathers. Many of these men will also divorce their wife and family using laws. This definition is against God’s family plan. Save your first family!