There are many different ways that you can tell if a family is a first family or second family. First of all, second wives tend to be very selfish and controlling. All that it takes is a man that is willing to let her take control of his family. Inch by inch she will work to replace the man’s children with her own. Finally, this man will find himself replaced too, because she will have successfully converted him into her property. She will be the head of her family and he will be a tag along husband and father. Both, this woman and her oldest child, will use the full force of the law to protect their family at the expense of the first family – and that includes the man that committed adultery with her. Honor Jesus’ words, “Do not commit adultery.” Do not move in with a second wife or marry a second wife after divorcing your first wife. Don’t make lawyers and their laws the focal point of your family.