The whole brain

“The light of the body is the eye: if therefore thine eye be single, thy whole body shall be full of light.” (Matthew 6:22)

Jesus is trying to explain that the two sides of our brain must work as one, but our ego side must not be the dominate side. And if it is our dominate side, we will be living our lives in darkness. Our ego side worries about us…what we eat, what we wear, how we look to others, how others treat us, what we receive, etc. Basically, it is a state of living in fear.  The only way to free ourselves from this state of mind is to start walking in faith by genuinely loving others. But what does it mean to love others?

“But if thine eye be evil, thy body shall be full of darkness. If therefore the light that is in thee be darkness, how great is that darkness.” (Matthew 6:23-24)

When thinking of Leah, Jacob’s second wife, and other second wives that I have known, the word “selfish” keeps coming up. We have a woman (men do this too when a woman divorces her husband and moves in with and marries another man) that is trying to separate a family. Obviously when attempts are made to separate a family as with Leah or when someone succeeds with that goal, there is not love for the first wife or for her children. Basically, the second wife wants to be a first wife and she is treated as such. Around the world, the force behind laws and lawyers with the help of law enforcement, families are torn apart to make room for a new wife or a new husband. Children of the first family are especially vulnerable because in most cases, they will be stripped of their position within the family and of any inheritance that is theirs. By inheritance, I am not only talking about the property that is left behind when their parents die, but of the love and experiences that are lost when a parent abandons their child for someone else and their children. Now we have more family members living in fear – a dysfunctional way of thinking.

Adultery causes a chain reaction that profoundly affects the children of the first family and the way they think. Not only that, but it also affects the children of the second family and the way that they think – selfishness and other problems will spread. Then as a result, it affects their children, because their parent’s love is incomplete. It causes a dysfunctional shift in perception.

Love and faith go together. Jesus proved it time and again. He never withdrew his love from anyone. Many others withdrew their love from him and desired to eliminate him. They did not like his Father’s rules! Keep the commandments!

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I am the author of The Step-Father’s Step-Son. The book is available through Family Matters Publishing at and The book covers subjects such as: adultery, family, relationships, and parenting. The book is written primarily for the first family and the children of the parents of the first family.