Based upon what Jesus said, the members of the first family are very important. When he said “let no man separate” that is exactly what he meant. In Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob’s families all of the children knew their father and were able to spend time with him. Only in cultures where divorce and remarriage occur do children grow up without at least one parent and sometimes two. This is very pleasing to the second spouse because they move from a secondary position into a primary position. In that false primary position many will try to replace the missing parent. Unfortunately that is an impossible and unnatural task. Our children need to know their father and their mother in order to know themselves. I have heard women talk about how they have noticed something missing in sons that grew up without their fathers. This is a very unfortunate situation when a parent abandons their own flesh and blood for another woman or another man.
In adulterous unions, where a man has abandoned his first wife and moved in with a second wife and has children with her, the second wife will want her children to be first even if it means eliminating a man’s children from his first family from their own father. Firstborn children of the first family are natural leaders – they are first and they naturally know it. When adultery is involved, our firstborn children of the first family are pushed aside to make room for the children of the second family. Our sons especially, never get to fill the role that God intended for them. They are replaced by the children of the second spouse. Instead of being active contributors, participants, and members within the family, they are forced to step aside to make room for the children of the second family. Quite often what these children speak is never really heard. In other words, their opinions don’t matter. Hence, the natural is replaced by the unnatural and it affects our sons and daughters alike. In situations like this, this “something” that is missing begins to be genetically transferred to the next generation. When this happens, we begin to see manifestations like autism, etc. These children have difficulty making eye contact and connecting with others. Just remember that their father or mother in many cases was ignored and their opinions did not matter. Our first families are very important. Do not let any other person separate the first family because it can have lasting effects on the future generations of the first family. Save the first family!