If someone wrongs us, the first thing that we are supposed to do is talk it over with that person alone. If he refuses to listen then the next thing that we do is bring at least one witness. If he still refuses to listen, the next step to take is to tell the church. Church doesn’t mean the people within four walls. It means the people that we meet and work with every day. Don’t fall for the old saying, “If you can’t say something good about someone don’t say anything at all” and don’t use a lawyer to work out your problems. If transgressions are forgiven on earth they are forgiven in heaven, but if transgressions are not forgiven on earth, they go to heaven for resolution. And so when the two of us reach an agreement regarding our disagreement, peace will be the result and Jesus will be there with us too!
Matthew 18: 15-19, “Moreover if thy brother shall trespass against thee, go and tell him his fault between thee and him alone: if he shall hear thee, thou hast gained thy brother. But if he will not hear thee, then take with thee one or two more, that in the mouth of two or three witnesses every word may be established. And if he shall neglect to hear them, tell it unto the church: but if he neglect to hear the church, let him be unto thee as an heathen man and a publican. Verily I say unto you, Whatsoever ye shall bind on earth shall be bound in heaven: and whatsoever ye shall loose on earth shall be loosed in heaven. Again I say unto you, That if two of you shall agree on earth as touching any thing that they shall ask, it shall be done for them of my Father which is in heaven. For where two or three are gathered together in my name, there am I in the midst of them.”