Jesus said, “But let your communication be, Yea, yea; Nay, nay” (Matthew 5:37). This means to let your “Yes” be a “Yes” and your “No” mean “No” and not “Maybe”. Our word is more important than a piece of paper. We should bind out agreements with a handshake and a personal commitment to complete the job. But from my experience, initial commitments may have to be adjusted in order to get the job completed because of unexpected events. This is when another meeting is required. It is about two people working together to complete a task. Our first marriage is one of those lifelong commitments. But there is one commitment that must never be made and must never be kept. Don’t fall for it when a potential second spouse wants you to use words like “Putting aside all others” in your wedding vows. A request such as this should stand as a warning not to proceed! Simple families (the first man and the first woman) are much easier and less stressful for us and our children than forcing the unnatural with “laws” and trying to do the impossible by making a second spouse into a first spouse.