Author: barbaramcox

I am the author of The Step-Father’s Step-Son. The book is available through Family Matters Publishing at www.stepfathersstepson.com and Amazon.com. The book covers subjects such as: adultery, family, relationships, and parenting. The book is written primarily for the first family and the children of the parents of the first family.

60 is middle age – not senior age

Genesis 6:3, “And the Lord said, My spirit shall not always strive with man, for he also is flesh: yet his days shall be an hundred and twenty years.”

Luke was one of Jesus’ disciples and Luke was a doctor. Living to one hundred and twenty years is not something a doctor will ever be able to fix with a pill or anything else. It is something that we must fix. Jesus was not only interested in saving our souls; he was also interested in our physical and psychological health. Jesus, in his physical form, was an example of what we could be if we keep God’s commandments. Jesus replaced the severed ear on a soldier, he caused a fruitless tree to wither and die, he calmed the sea, he found a large school of fish for the fishermen, he walked on water, he fed the hungry, he caused the lame to walk…

Jesus was and is an example of all of us. This is what we could all be like if we were living souls instead of bodies with a tiny soul. We all have this potential if we put our faith and trust in God. Unfortunately, adultery is one of the most damaging things that we can do to our family, to our children, and future generations. This one act; that involves cheating, divorce, and remarriage; has the potential to cause ill health for our future generations. Shake the faith of your little children and watch. The only problem is that most of us will not live to be one hundred and twenty years and will not be able to see how our decisions have affected the lives of our children and their children. This is why Jesus said to let no man separate! All it takes is one person to deliver genes to the next generation. In this way, we have families with diabetes, heart problems, autism, etc. Our children suffer. Our brains control our genes and our health. The way that we think and the way that we live is important to our family. Save the first family!

The Second Family

The second family has no choice except to put their trust in lawyers and laws. Without laws and lawyers, their legal family would not exist. The members of the second family are dependent upon laws to eliminate the members of the first family. Without laws they could not replace the first family and become the primary representatives and heirs over the first family.

So – look around you. If you see a man or woman that is supportive and trusting in laws and lawyers, then you can know that most likely their house is built upon sand.

Save the first family!

The dysfunctional family

Many of our men mistakenly believe that they can go from woman to woman without consequences. The same applies to women to going from man to man. Neither have any respect for God’s family. Instead of a sense of togetherness, we have separation. Instead of order – we have chaos and dysfunction.

That second wife or second husband must never be permitted to separate the first family. These two must never be permitted to replace the children of the first family with their children.

In Abraham’s family and Jacob’s family the second family remained a part of the family. Only with adultery, do we eliminate the first family from their father and sometimes even from their mother. Do not put your trust in lawyers and their “laws” if your plan is to go to heaven. Lawyers try to make the illegal appear to be legal. Don’t let them fool you. Family is forever. Save the first family!

The mother of the lost children

Leah, Jacob’s second wife, is the mother of Reuben, Simeon, Levi, Judah, Issachar, Zebulun, and Dinah.

Just like many today, Leah thought that if she could trick Jacob into laying with her first that she could have Jacob as her live-in husband (Genesis 29:32). But Jacob loved Rachel (Genesis 29:30) and even after Leah and Laban’s (their father) trickery, he still agreed to work another seven years for Laban. (Genesis 29:27)

Reuben, Leah’s oldest son, found some mandrakes, which were thought to have fertility powers, growing in the field. He brought them to his mother. Rachel asked for some of Reuben’s mandrakes because she was childless. Instead of giving them to Rachel, Leah hired Jacob to lay with her for one night. This is not love and if Jacob had moved in permanently with Leah, his second wife, he would have become property. He no longer would have been a free man as he was with Rachel his first wife and the one that he loved.

Jacob and Rachel’s commitment to each other was based upon love. Leah thought that she could force her way into their family and have Jacob all to herself. Jacob never let it happen. Because Jacob laid with Leah, she become one of his wives, but not his first wife. Rachel was the one that he loved, she was his first wife. A man must never move in with a second wife.

Who are the lost sheep?

Matthew 15:24, “I am not sent but unto the lost sheep of the house of Israel.”

Could it be that we are still living among the lost sheep of the house of Israel today? Among us are people that do not honor or respect their own families. Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob are examples of men that did respect their families. We have mother-in-laws, father-in-laws, son-in-laws, and daughter-in-laws. Technically the first wife is a wife-in-law too because our family law is set up for the break-up of the family and not the maintenance of the family. Our families are based upon man’s “laws” rather than God’s laws. Just look around us. Most of our mothers and first wives are living with another man. Most of our fathers and husbands are living with another woman. If they have children from their first family, that poor child is tossed from household to household between their parents and their live-in “friends”. So I must ask you, “Who is more important – a lawyer and his “laws” or God? God loved us enough to let us choose. Who do you choose?